Tuesday, August 4

Personal Development

Personal Development

Personal Development

The Real Imposter Is the Part of You That Hesitates

Life What holds people back from making a bold choice or following a dream? When you ask, often they’ll point to the lack of knowledge. They simply aren’t sure what to do, so they wait for someone to give them a step-by-step plan. Other times, they mention a lack of resources or some kind of access—perhaps they need money, or maybe they’re holding out on a specific connection or certification. I’m pretty sure that these cases are the minority. What stops more people than anything else is internal resistance. In my inbox every day and at most events I speak at (virtually these days, of course) I hear questions about something called “imposter syndrome.” I worry I’m not good enough. Who am I to join the club of people who make things happen? What if I fail? (Or sometimes, What if...
Personal Development

The Third Way: New Interactive Meeting Thursday, May 7

Work Last week I did a Masterclass for several hundred people who had pre-ordered The Money Tree. Can you have that many people on Zoom at once? Apparently you can! It was a lot of fun, and in some ways, it reminded me of my book tours … you know, like the one I’m not doing now. In the book, the main character Jake gets invited to a weekly meeting with a group of people who are all trying to create financial security for themselves. Some want to quit their jobs, others just need to pay off debt, and others like the idea of doing something different with their free time. The group offers feedback, advice, and support. It’s called The Third Way, based on the premise that the two most commonly-known models of starting a business don’t work for most people. (The Third Way is all...
Personal Development

If You Find Yourself Dreading Appointments You Made Long Ago, Start Asking “Would I Do This Tomorrow?”

Life You know the feeling you get when an appointment approaches on your calendar and you’re not looking forward to it? Maybe you’re even dreading it? Ugh, I totally forgot about that, you think. But I guess I need to to do it, since I agreed long ago. We’ve all been there. Some of us find ourselves there all the time. The good news is, there’s a trick to make that happen less and less. It comes from understanding that when someone asks you to do something you don’t really want to do, you’re more willing to agree if it takes place far into the future. You tend to think, “Oh, that’s a long time from now. I’m not thrilled about the idea, but sure, I can do that.” Maybe it seems easier to accept the request than it would be to decline, even if declining is in your best interes...
Personal Development

New! A Reading Group Guide to The Money Tree

Et Cetera Link: –> Download the Money Tree Reading Group Guide In addition to the Third Way group that I’m starting, a lot of people have asked for materials to facilitate conversations around The Money Tree. I’m glad they did! We now have a free reading group guide that you can access for book clubs, friends and family, or just your own reflections. If you’re reading the book with a group (or if you’d like to!), this might help. Spoiler warning: if you haven’t finished the book yet, you might want to hold off before looking at this document. Link: –> Download the Money Tree Reading Group Guide Tags: books, miscellaneous, the money tree Subscribe now and you’ll get the best posts of all time.
Personal Development

The Courage to Change Your Mind

Life Here’s a helpful filter to know when to worry: does something sound too good to be true, or does it sound so bad that people give up and stop thinking for themselves? Either way, when everyone around you agrees, it’s worth asking some questions. Questions like: “What’s really going on here—and who is threatened by disagreement?” Consider it an opportunity! When it comes to Coronavirus life, an astounding amount of groupthink is currently taking place. It’s as though everyone is taking the collective temperature (no pun intended…) before deciding what they believe and how they should act. To be clear, I’ve said several times that the most important thing we can do is keep people safe. And as an introvert who frequently spends twenty-four hours a day by myself, I’ve also bee...
Personal Development

The Steps Before the First Step

Life If you try to tackle a big project and end up getting stuck somewhere along the way, it might mean that some steps are missing. Imagine trying to complete a difficult, 1,000-piece jigsaw puzzle. Even though it has a thousand pieces, finishing the puzzle requires to complete more than a thousand steps. You need to spend time sorting, grouping, and looking for edge pieces. You also might have to undo some parts of your work as you go along—which adds more steps, since now you need to override previous tasks that you thought had been completed. This is all logical enough, but a) it takes time, and b) if you haven’t ever done a large puzzle before, you might get frustrated. You might give up along the way, leaving your puzzle half-finished and sitting on the kitchen table for ...
The Building Blocks of Moral Revolution: Jacqueline Novogratz on the Art of Accompaniment Along the Path to Justice and the Courage to Defy Cynicism in the Face of Staggering Requisite for Change
Personal Development

The Building Blocks of Moral Revolution: Jacqueline Novogratz on the Art of Accompaniment Along the Path to Justice and the Courage to Defy Cynicism in the Face of Staggering Requisite for Change

From the hard-earned platform of his revolutionary life, Frederick Douglass looked back on his youth under the “brutalizing power” of slavery, a bodily brutality lashing at the soul as he watched “men and women, … moral and intellectual beings, in open contempt of their humanity, leveled at a blow with horses, sheep, horned cattle and swine.” This grim reality of “manhood lost in chattelhood,” he argued, would take nothing less than a “moral revolution” to overturn. A century after Douglass’s death, a nun by the name of Felicula Nyiramutarambirwa — one of Rwanda’s first three women parliamentarians — set out to eradicate the country’s epochs-old “bride price” — a practice of reducing women to chattel by having a prospective husband offer his future father-in-law three cows in exchange...
1 Thing You Should Know About Our Uncertain Reality
Personal Development

1 Thing You Should Know About Our Uncertain Reality

In the mid-1950’s, the leaders of Thailand decided to build a new highway into their largest city, Bangkok. The highway would pass through an area with relatively low population density where an old broken-down temple stood. The government purchased the property rights to the old temple and the surrounding grounds, and agreed to let a few local monks move a 500-year-old white stucco statue of Buddha to a safer location. The stucco Buddha was absolutely immense in size and weight. It stood nearly 11 feet tall, with a 6-foot circumference, and weighed in at nearly 15,000 pounds. So the local monks worked with the government leaders to arrange for a large crane and transport to safely move the stucco Buddha from the old temple grounds to a new home on the other side of the city. A couple we...
10 Little Habits that Wreck Thousands of Lives One Day at a Time
Personal Development

10 Little Habits that Wreck Thousands of Lives One Day at a Time

In a culture that seeks quick results, we must learn the beauty of effort, patience, and perseverance. Have you ever told yourself that you’re going to make something happen and then nothing happened? All details aside, it’s because you didn’t have the right habits in place—the little things you do every day that build up to something bigger. Habits define you. All the results in your life come from your daily habits. If you’re out of shape and overweight, you have different habits than someone who’s physically fit. If you’re fit, you jump out of bed early every morning and sweat before preparing a healthy breakfast. If you’re out of shape, you sleep in and eat whatever is fastest and easiest. This may be a bit of a generalization, but it’s not far from the truth for the average able-bo...
7 Hard Things You Should Do for Yourself When You Don’t Feel Good Enough
Personal Development

7 Hard Things You Should Do for Yourself When You Don’t Feel Good Enough

You are enough. You have enough. You do enough. Breathe deep… let go, and just live right now in the moment. Angel and I coach a number of students, 2-on-1 and in small groups — and pretty much every one of them is hard on themselves in some way. There’s this underlying feeling of stress and pain driven by disappointed in themselves, anger at themselves, or constantly believing they are inadequate. Can you relate to this? I think most of us can. This is a fundamental problem that most of us face, every single day. We don’t love significant aspects of ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We are frightened of uncertainty because we don’t think we’re good enough to handle it. We don’t trust ourselves, because we’ve formed a negative understanding of ourselves over the years. We get angry at ou...